Wedding season will soon be upon us. Time for wearing this season's hottest fashions, choosing a killer pendant jewelry necklace and earrings, and a pair of strappy heels--you want to look your best for the event, after all. For the bride, all eyes will be on you after months of careful planning and endless decisions. As guests and the wedding couple convene together on the appointed day, beautifully coiffed and groomed, all seems nearly perfect. But there's one crucial element, which if missing, can fade the beauty of even the bride's most lustrous pearl jewelry necklace.
When most hear the word "etiquette," they think hum-drum rules. While it's true that wedding etiquette has loosened considerably, there are still guidelines that both the bridal couple and their guests should adhere to avoid misunderstandings and offense. Wedding etiquette can actually assist the wedding party and guests in navigating the never-ending social demands of such an occasion with grace and ease. Following are six big wedding mistakes to avoid:
1. Weddings are not a fund-raising occasion for the couple. It is still not acceptable for couples to request their preference for cash on an invitation. Couples should also keep themselves from requesting sponsorhips, such as dinner or activity during the honeymoon as a gift. One wedding gift etiquette expert commented on Web sites where couples have listed restaurants and activities where they will be vacationing in an effort to encourage guests to fund these outings. In another example of poor wedding gift etiquette, a couple auctioned off picnic baskets to their wedding party in lieu of a rehearsal dinner. In terms of a registry cards, they may be included only in bridal shower invitations. Otherwise, couples should rely on word-of-mouth to spread where they are registered.
2. Rules for modern wedding attire have changed with the times. Still, certain standards for style, lengths and fabrics help guide the bride in her choices for wedding attire. For example, the formality of the bride's dress not only sets the standard for the wedding party attire, but also, for instance, in choices for jewelry and theme. The bride who wants a more traditional feel to her big day should choose a classically-styled dress and perhaps diamond earrings and a pearl pendant jewelry necklace. Colored gemstone jewelry is perfectly allowable in today's modern weddings, including everything from the engagement ring to a gemstone jewelry necklace for each bridesmaid. Evening weddings should reflect the formality of the occasion. Brides can amp up the romance with a sparkling CZ earring and jewelry necklace set for herself and the bridesmaids.
3. When it comes to the wedding party, couples should consider the financial cost to their friends and family, especially these days. For many, there will be travel costs involved, as well as wedding attire, and expenses for the shower and wedding gift. If a bride wants to invite her bridesmaids to every shower being held in her honor, she should engage in wedding gift etiquette to make it clear she does not expect multiple gifts. When it comes to inviting guests, a bride must include anyone who has been invited to a shower in her wedding guest list as well.
4. An RSVP on the wedding invites means that the invited guest should respond, even if she or he can't make the event. Guests should never assume that bride knows you are coming. That's why the wedding invites politely request a response. Unfortunately, when RSVPs are not observed, the mother of the bride and her bridesmaids must spend their valuable time making calls to those who did not respond.
5. Speaking of wedding invites, the bride and groom have been diligent in creating a guest list. Therefore, invitations addressed only to the adults in the household means the children are not invited. It is acceptable to include an "adults-only" line on the response card for clarity. Brides inviting out-of-town guests with young children should make arrangements for the tots during the reception, such as a babysitting service.
6. Smile, smile, smile. There is no such thing as a perfect wedding. Brides, and/or her guests, who insist on perfection are missing the true spirit of the occasion. The most important thing a bride can do when facing a gaffe is to politely smile and behave with poise. The memory of a gracious bride will linger much longer in the minds of her guests than the sparkle of any diamond jewelry necklace ever could.
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