Each and every thing that happens to us happens for a purpose. It is said the experience - good and bad - is the best teacher. It's the best tool to help you grow, improve yourself and become successful. So don't simply lock yourself up or keep yourself from the world because of failures, heartaches and embarrassments. These experiences are the best and most valuable teachers you could ever have.
Remember that Robin Williams' move, Patch Adams? It's a movie with a great message, one that you can learn from if you want to improve yourself. The movie is about a medical student, Hunter "Patch" Adams, who didn't pass the medical board exams. He suffered for months; he became depressed and eventually became suicidal. He checked himself voluntarily into a psychiatric ward. There he stayed for several months and met many people - sick ones: catatonic, schizophrenic, mentally retarded.
Patch found a way to treat his ailment and in the process, he realized he needed to get himself back on track. One morning, he woke up and realized that he still wanted to become a doctor. That's when his outlook started to change. He became positive, and in the process, he improved himself and became success. Not only did he improve himself, however; he also helped improve the lives of those around him. There's no question about his success. He became one of the best doctors in this country.
Patch Adams' life is one good example of how self-improvement is synonymous with success. Here's how you can be like Patch Adams:
*If you harbor thoughts that you're a failure, stop doing that starting right now. You are not a failure. Accept yourself and others will too.
*Stop becoming envious of the hunky and sexy models you see on TV and on billboards. Beauty isn't just about great abs or long, slender legs. Instead of worrying about how you look on the outside, work on the inside first. Learn self-acceptance and then you'll be able to work on the rest.
*It is said that the best way you can help yourself is if you help other people. Help those who are down about themselves; be the wall they can lean on to. Don't be pulled down by others when you see them being down on themselves. Be the one to cheer others.
*If you make mistakes, treat those as opportunities to learn. It won't help to feel stupid, berate yourself or feel that you're doomed when you make mistakes. Think of it this way: if you don't make mistakes, how are you going to improve? Mistakes are a part of life. Accept your mistakes, learn from them and then move on.
*Learn to take things as they come, one at a time. Don't expect yourself to change or improve overnight. If you are trying to kick a bad habit, don't expect to be rid of it overnight; it just isn't possible. Change, self-improvement, involves a process.
*Be more confident about yourself and your abilities. Learn to appreciate yourself. This is the key to inner stability, personality development and being successful.
*Learn to set not just meaningful goals, but also achievable ones. Don't go out to look like Brad Pitt or Cameron Diaz; aim to become a better version of YOU, not someone else.
*For other people, the little things can mean the world. Giving someone a pat on the back, saying a simple "Hi" or "Hello" to a neighbor, or complimenting a friend can go a long way. These can be enough to cheer up a person.
*Remember that not everyone is willing to change or undergo the process of self-improvement; you may be willing, but others may not. We all have different sets of values and attitudes. Do what you have to do to better yourself; don't wait for other people to agree or do with you the things you know can help you and them. You're can only change yourself; others will have to decide for themselves.
There's no such thing as an "overnight success." Self-improvement involves a process. There's a saying, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." If you're ready to get on the path of self-improvement, your "teachers" will appear - they can be your parents, your friends, your school teachers, your co-workers,your neighbors, even the strangers you meet. And when you let yourself open to learning and improving yourself, you're also increasing your chances of becoming a success.