The first online dating tip is about your expectations of internet dating.
Be realistic about the process of online dating and how much time it will involve, about the type of person you are and the type of person you would like to end up with.
WHICH ONLINE DATING SITE SHOULD YOU CHOOSE?
To help you choose the right online dating service for you, read the About Us page, the FAQ page and the Privacy Page of each site.
These pages will give you some idea of the type of people it is catering, for example, professional people, older people, international people, specific religion.
If the online dating services allow you to, browse some of the profiles and photos before you join, to assess whether the people match who you are.
For safety purposes and convenience, look for online dating services that offer:
Onsite messaging (instead of using your own personal email address)
Secure payment methods (credit card, money order, PayPal, etc.)
When you first start you may want to take advantage of a free trial period to see which of the services they offer, you would like to use such as
A large database of members.
KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND WHO YOU WANT
Consider things such as:
Would you be willing to leave your job or leave family and friends if you met someone living in another city or country? Would you be willing to travel to a nearby town on a regular basis, to see them?
Level of affluence
Would you be willing to lower your standard of living or support your partner if you fell in love with someone who had a lot less money than you?
Attitudes to smoking, drinking, having children, religion etc if these things are important to you.
From the start, instead of hoping the other person will change, look for someone who has similar values to you.
ONLINE DATING TIPS ON PHOTOGRAPHS
Statistics show that profiles with photographs are up to 15 times more likely to be viewed.
Although it is important to be physically attracted to someone, making your decisions based entirely on appearance can be limiting. It is important to focus on inner qualities and it takes time to discover these, so be careful of judging too quickly.
PHOTOS for Internet Dating Sites
Photos should be clear (not blurred)
Photos should be current
Show your portrait and/or a full body shot
Can show you with your pets, playing a sport
PHOTOS should not:
Show your children
Obscure your face in any way
Be too seductive or explicit
Show you with a group of people where others can't tell what you look like or which person is you
ONLINE DATING TIPS about PROFILES
Take your time to read a profile because what you find out about the person in this way, will help you decide whether to communicate with them or not.
YOUR OWN PROFILE
Include photos and provide interesting information about yourself without giving out personal information that would compromise your safety.
Be positive about yourself without bragging.
Instead of listing things like caring, honest, fun loving, ambitious etc, give an indication of something you have done that will illustrate this.
When mentioning things you like doing, say more than just one word e.g. Instead of "I love dancing" add "I've also been on a dance holiday in Palma."
Try to use phrases that are not cliches used by everyone else on the site e.g. I'm equally comfortable "in that little black dress or jeans" you could say "I'm happy in my party shoes as well as in trainers"
State in the positive facts about yourself and about the person you want e.g. Instead of "I don't want someone who is unemployed" say "I want someone who is financially independent".
If you find that you are not getting very many responses to your profile, take a look at the profiles of others to find out what they are saying and how they are saying it. This will give you some idea of how you can tweak yours to make it stand out more.