It is the 21st century man, and its time you changed your dating style for a much faster connected world to become a modern man. At no other time in history has so many options existed for men looking to find women to hook up with. All it really takes to make yourself a dating success is knowing how to adjust your dating swagger to get the woman attracted to you as well.
To increase your swagger you need to understand exactly what that means to a modern man. You may have heard the term swagger used to refer to a way of walking and that is true but in dating your swagger is the overall confidence and way you carry yourself. Your swagger is a combination of your style of dress the way you talk, your body language and attitude.
Give a guy a scale from one to ten to rate how important he finds a woman's appearance and he will give it a 20. For women however looks are nowhere near the top of the list. Meaning you have less to do to impress a woman than she has to do to impress you. With that said you still have want to showcase some type of style, a look that fits your personality and makes you stand out from all the rest.
Some self-help books and websites might tell you the only way to attract women is by being very neat and clean. They would be wrong! There are many types of women, and that means they are looking for all types of guys. From the supplicated guy in the business suit to the relaxed causal guy wearing jeans and a t-shirt to the grungy, unkempt hair of the rock and roll type of guy. Find a style that you like and work with it.
Talking to a woman is about being able to interact and draw her attention into you and what you have to say. A truly modern man knows how to effortlessly converse with women about any topic. For men who have trouble talking with women, the best way to prepare is just being natural, when men try to force the conversation or have no knowledge about a subject it's obvious. Start a conversation about something that interests you or encourage her to talk about herself. You can then make polite responses without having the burden of carrying the conversation on your back.
Your posture and way you walk determine whether women see you as date potential. If you have a brisk paced walk with your arms folded, you come off as unapproachable. Walk to slow and you look indecisive. The best approach is a smooth relaxed walk. You can achieve this by standing up straight, keeping your shoulders down, making eye contact and hold up your head as you move.
Dating attitude in a modern man is really about showing off your confidence. Your confidence should come across in your ease at talking, how you walk and even in your choice of clothing. Increase your confidence by being bold and assertive when you speak with women, don't allow her or anyone else in the room to dominate what is happening, you have all the control.
Make a decision to seek help
Guys there is no reason to wallow in self-pity because you have not had the dating life you seek. You are not alone in your dating troubles and tons of guys have had trouble at one point or another, including me. When I used to try to talk with women, I had no idea what to say. I often felt embarrassed and did everything I could to avoid getting attention.
When I did work up the nerve to walk over to a girl I was sure she would turn me down. I was convinced women only went for buff jocks, pretty boys and millionaires.
When I did date women I treated them like princesses. I showered them with gifts and gave them all of my attention. I would cater to their demands and did whatever the girl wanted to do. Unfortunately, I was miserable. My lack of modern man skills had no longer just become a problem with dating it had become a problem in all areas of my life. I had no power in my relationships with women but I had also lost any power in my relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Once I faced the truth and started looking for a solution, my life began to turn around. Swagger is not like learning how to walk it does not always develop naturally and there is nothing wrong with needing a little help sometimes. Guys there is no embarrassment or shame in saying you need help developing your confidence in dating or your personal relationships. In fact, my life is so successful now because I was able to face the reality of the situation and ask for help. I hope you find the courage to do the same and become a modern man.