Understanding body language and being able to use it when needed is one of the most important skills a guy needs if he wants to impress a woman, get a girlfriend and hook up. Shy guys, nice guys and average guys who constantly are lead around by their emotions have trouble knowing how to turn women on with their body language. Thankfully, body language is one of the easiest dating skills to improve upon.
Bad Body Language
Before understanding body language, you need something to compare it too, take this example of a shy guy trying to pick up a girl he meets at a party using bad body language. The girl is beautiful with sculpted features, long legs, long blonde hair and a perfect size eight shape. She just happens to be his perfect type, making the guy even more nervous and he does not take the time to think he just reacts. Walking right over to her, he interrupts her in the middle of talking to several of her friends and blurts out that he finds her pretty. Then he pauses. He was so anxious to let the girl know he found her attractive he did not have any room left in his brain. No place in his thinking process to ask for the girl's phone number, strike up a casual conversation or even send out a single signal of his attraction before he walked over.
As you can imagine the girl does not respond well, she looks at him and maybe smiles or fidgets waiting for him to make a response. Realizing his blunder the guy still stands there frozen just staring at her. She begins to feel uncomfortable and she and her friends all leave the room to get away from him. What this guy did not understand is that body language is the lead in to approaching a woman.
Good Body Language
Understanding body language when you try and hit on girls is essential and you start by making eye contact. There is nothing wrong with a little practice so consider working on attractive body language by standing in front of the mirror. Look at your eyes in the mirror and try to see how you appear to the girl you are tying to pick up. Smile with your eyes to keep from coming off as cold or too intense. You can learn this trick by thinking about something pleasurable as you look at a girl.
If you are trying to connect with one woman making eye contact with her and then turning your head and trying to hit on another girl while still in her line of vision is not a smart move! The point of making eye contact is to have her believing you think she is the hottest girl in the room. If you are going to hit on several women at the same location make sure they are not seated so they can see you flirting with other guys while you are still trying to hook up with them.
Now that you are understanding body language from the neck up you can tackle the rest of your body! It is called body language for a reason, your entire body really can be used to attract and hit on women. Look in the mirror and pay attention to how you hold yourself, guys who stand up with their feet a little spread apart come on as secure in their own skin. If you have your shoulders hunched, arms folded, frown or slump as you stand, fix that posture, it does nothing but kill a woman's interest.
The walk is also important for attraction. Guys who pace rapidly look too aggressive or frantic, guys who walk too slow come across as boring and predictable. Make your walk a little unique, develop a natural stride that feels good and comfortable too you, try to be smooth when you walk, opposed to having jerky body movements and starting and stopping a lot as you walk. Both show signs of a guy suffering from a bad case of nerves.
You can arouse a woman just by understanding body language, using it to get her turned on before you even approach her. Licking your lips is a great way to have a woman thinking about kissing you or having sex with you. You do not have to be suggestive; a simple lick of the lips can have her thinking about you. As well as using your hands, women can tell how confident a guy is by where he places his hands. Keep from fidgeting with your hands to keep from coming off as nervous.