When I bring up the topic of how to approach women, I can immediately begin to feel the fear in the air among guys. Guys who fear approaching women and are sure they are going to be rejected or embarrassed in some way when they do. I cannot tell you how many times I have approached a woman and for whatever reason it just did not work out.
Sometimes my pick up lines were a little ridiculous or some times after spending a few minutes talking to a girl I realized she was just not the right one for me. Now even though I get an occasional "no thank you" or a roll of the eyes I have never had a woman just burst out laughing, slap me or cause a scene, and I am very thankful for that.
I think the secret to approaching a woman is to know your own strengths and playing into them and this should include physical as well as emotional strengths. I work out every day and before I go out for the night, I want to put on a shirt that lets women see my muscles, through it. Nothing too tight, or fancy just a good quality shirt that highlights one of my best features.
Women do this all the time men. There is a reason the hot girl at the bar you cannot keep your eyes off put on the low cut blouse that lets you see all the way down her shirt, and paired it up with those three inch heels that makes her legs look even longer and more toned than normal. She was leading with her best physical features.
To learn how to approach women you should be aware of your best personality traits. If you have never taken the time to do this, make sure you do so before you head out again to mingle with girls. Some guys can make a joke about anything and get a girl laughing, others are just natural talkers able to steer a conversation and have women want to stay up and talk to them all night. Still other guys know that being the "alpha dog" is his best trait and uses this to impress girls and get them eager to have sex with him and some guys are just master flirters getting women aroused without much effort on their parts.
Before they can learn how to approach women many men have to learn how to get over the fears that are holding them back. If the thought of walking up to a girl is that terrifying you should examine what past event could have caused this to happen too you and deal with it.
By not handling the past fear you are not suppressing it, you are allowing it to fester to the point it is affecting your present and future dating life. Events that happened in the past belong in the past, a childhood event where a girl you liked humiliated you in public has too be let go if you plan on ever being able to naturally approach hot women and have sex with them.
When learning how to approach women, you need to pay attention to what her body language is trying to tell you before you walk over. Even if you are interested in a woman she may not automatically be interested in you, or she just might not be ready for you to approach yet.
Most of the time you should not make eye contact and walk right over, instead spend a little time teasing and flirting from a distance. Making eye contact, smiling in her direction, letting your eyes linger over her figure without acting creepy, sitting up straight so you show off a confident stance are all good ideas.
As you flirt with her pay attention to see if she flirts back with you. If she keeps looking at you, holds your gaze, crosses or uncrosses her legs in your direction, licks at her lips, or tosses her hair you should feel confident that an approach will not get you turned down.
You should always lead with your best trait first when learning how to approach women. Do not get a puffed up head just because you have finally managed to walk up to the girl. Unbelievably the lead in to your approach was the easiest part of talking and meeting a woman. Now that you are close enough to touch you have to know what to say. You should be able to start a conversation, and ask for her phone number.