Most guys develop their dating skills in clubs and other late night, entertainment hot spots. There is sound reasoning behind this, their are a large number of women who frequent these types of locations and men can find a lot of success at these places.
Surprisingly few however, know how to talk to women on the street. I used to think that their really was not any difference in how you approached women. I thought that the same pick up lines and methods could work at any time of day and at any location where you planed on scoring. I had a friend who told me about how to talk to women on the street but I just dismissed him, thinking their could not be that much of a difference. Turns out, I was wrong.
How did I finally figure this out? I tried to pick up a woman in the middle of the day, while on my lunch break. Normally I would eat in my office but it was a beautiful spring day and I decided to head on over to the local restaurant for lunch. When I entered the room I saw a pretty lady sitting with a friend and I decided I would take a shot at trying to pick her up just too see if I could.
When I made eye contact with her, she simply looked at me for a second before making a polite dismissive smile in return and going back to her conversation. After placing my order I decided to walk on over and introduce myself even though she had not given me a single sign that I should. I approached her like I would a woman at the club by smiling in a slightly suggestive manner and turning on body language sexual attraction hints to get her too show her interest in me in return. Instead of smiling and flirting however she looked away from me. Since I was already standing right beside her, I kept on with the come on just to prove I know how to talk to women on the street.
I interrupted her conversation with her friend and made a corny joke, even taking care to raise my voice to the level I would if I had been talking in the club, attempting to show my "ease" in the situation. She turned red and I noticed that others in the restaurant had started to turn around and look at me looking slightly surprised. I think this was the point I realized I had made a blunder; the girl just looked over at her friend, helplessly.
Her friend, not as nice as the cute girl I had hit on, made sure to raise her voice to the same level as mine had been and informed me I was interrupting a business meeting and would I please go away! You can imagine how humiliated I felt when I realized how loud and obnoxious I had seemed. I apologized and got out of their as quickly as possible, to this day I cannot even remember if I stopped to get my food first and I realized that I did not know as much about how to talk to women on the street as I had previously thought.
I learned a very valuable lesson that day. Never make assumptions when it comes to dating! If I had taken the time to feel out the atmosphere of the room, paid attention to the type of women I was dealing with and stopped to think before I acted I could have saved both me and her a lot of embarrassment.
Knowing what I now know I could definitely have gotten the girls number at the restaurant that day if I had used a different approach. About the only action that I would repeat from the first experience is the eye contact. Eye contact really is universal to dating no matter where you meet women.
If I had been paying a little more attention before, I would have noticed the papers spread out between the two women as they ate lunch and I would have realized that approaching at that moment was a huge distraction and she did not have the time to pay me any attention. I also would have realized that since she was hanging out at the local restaurant and that the wait staff actually called her by name she was a local and I could have waited until another day to make a move.
After that humiliation, I definitely paid more attention to how to talk to women on the street. Since then I have never embarrassed myself when coming on to girls at malls, bookstores or other daytime sights.