The problem with shyness among guys is that it makes a man feel like he is out of control. Shy guys don't just lack confidence in their abilities to attract and pick up women. They are often afraid of being rejected and don't like to take the risk of putting the situation into a woman's hands. So instead, they do nothing.
Shyness is a lonely lifestyle. Shy guys have few friends and when they do have friends; they tend to be the guy who hangs around in the background. Deferring to what his more opinionated and confident friends think the shy guy does not stand up for himself or make his thoughts and opinions known in the group.
With women, the shy guy rarely gets noticed and when he does, it is not likely to be in a positive light. Most shy guys approach a woman and promptly freeze up, if you cannot speak and have no idea how to make small talk or get a woman laughing then the likelihood that she will give you her phone number or have sex with you is remote. If men want to be successful at dating and learn what women want they have to be willing to come out of their shells.
The first steps
The first step a guy should take in overcoming shyness is finding out why you are shy. If you have been shy your whole life, then it probably means you have never take the time needed to develop a more dominant personality. If you become shy after having a particularly traumatic rejection from a woman, get over it! Seriously, one rejection should not have the power to scar you for life; rejection is a natural part of life. Sometimes you get the job you want, the girl of your dreams and the house you want, sometimes however you just don't win.
The trick is not accepting the situations where you lose. Instead, you want to learn why you lost to prevent the same thing from happening again. It always surprises guys when I say this, but with the right training and approach, you can almost eliminate the chances that a woman will reject you.
Start becoming a leader
Shy guys do not participate in their lives or the lives of others around them, they exist in autopilot, too afraid to make waves and get attention. What they do not seem to realize is that there is nothing wrong with receiving attention. Guys who get to sleep with girls and date the women you want are able to do so because they don't blend into the background they stand out from it.
Just take a chance. The next time you go out to any place where you can meet women and you see a girl you like do the exact opposite of your normal routine. Instead of standing around sitting in a dark shadow or staying at the table while your friends dance and have fun, make a move.
Make eye contact and walk over to her, smile and just relax around her. Shyness often causes guys to get extremely nervous when talking to beautiful women, making them trip, knock items over and come across as a little goofy. Avoid this problem by taking a deep breath and approaching her as if she is a friend you already know, causing the tension to leave your body and allowing you to act more naturally.
Remember to be you
I have seen shy guys try to overcompensate for being shy by lying and telling all kinds of wild exploits. I even had a friend who would often walk up to a woman and tell her he was an Olympic champion weight lifter, since he weighed a good hundred and fifty pounds soaking wet women did not buy this line. It only made my friend come off as desperate and untrustworthy.
Shy guys do not have to put on an act to attract hot women, you want to become relaxed and be more open. You do not want to look like a pathetic guy who would do anything in order to get a date. If you have trouble with shyness when talking to beautiful women get the help from a female friend. This should be a friend you have no sexual desire in for this to work. You are simply going to use her as your guinea pig, allowing you to try out what pick up lines work when picking up women and which fall flat.