I used to display all the typical signs of a shy guy when it came to dating. I think many guys end up shy because of a rejection when they were younger, maybe a playground incident where they were laughed at by a group of their peers. Alternatively, shyness may be the natural way that a man responds when thrust into an unfamiliar situation. Overcoming shyness is the only way guys can become happy and get girlfriends. Guys can boost up their self-esteem to blast through shyness and keep it from ever interfering with their dating lives again.
Get out of the house
One of the best ways of overcoming shyness is to ease into social situations with women. If you are a guy who has been single for a long time and rarely goes out going to club packed with a few hundred women will only cause you stress and will not get you sex. Start off with much smaller locations so you feel more in control. Attending a book reading at the library, a cocktail party for your job, offer locations where it is easier to engage women without loud music and an overcrowded room. Gyms, bookstores and other places frequented make great locations for connecting with beautiful women.
Once at these locations there is nothing wrong with first approaching women you know will not reject you. Walking up to the wife of a friend or a colleague from work you have no sexual desire in will help you talk to women without letting nerves get in the women. These women can also be a great way to get introduced to beautiful women you see at the party, as they can make introductions and help you avoid the awkwardness of having too make eye contact before you approach a pretty girl.
Go on scheduled practice dates
Speed dating events are very short dates, usually less than 10 minutes at length. Local speed dating events usually consist of men meeting between 5 to 10 different women in an hour of two. You do not have a lot of time to talk during a speed-dating event and for guys overcoming shyness, this can allow you to relax and just talk to a woman without thinking of what you think she wants to hear or struggling to make up interesting conversation.
Shy guys can also overcome shyness by using every meeting with female friends they have no sexual interest in as a chance to flirt. To hold the attention of a woman men use flirting to make her comfortable, you can avoid nerves and learn what approaches work best by doing a little casual flirting with a friend or two.
Develop reasonable expectations
If you have no idea what you want from a woman, nothing is likely to happen. For example you see a pretty girl and you walk up to her and just hang around not saying or doing anything, she can see you and so can all of her friends but you don't engage them in conversation you just look. Though you may think you are doing no harm, you are turning her off before you work up your courage to approach. By hanging around uninvited, you come off as weird or annoying.
Before approaching a woman decide what you want to happen, play the scenario out in your head a little to help you understand exactly what you have to do and exactly how it will work. Think about pick up lines, smiling, flirting, body language, everything that could possibly occur. To clarify my point the time to practice overcoming shyness is not when you are at the bar and see a girl you should be practicing before you come out for the night. Running through possible ways a girl might respond to your approach and thinking about what you can see to keep a conversation moving can help shy guys just relax and stay current in the moment.
Develop better relationships with men
Some guys only seem to be shy when it comes to meeting and approaching women, others however have let shyness become a part of their everyday live, even preventing them from making male friends. If you wan to get closer to women, you need to be able to make male friends. Having the large support system of friends you know are going to support you and can be around when you go out looking for women can help guys feel more confident and offers the courage needed when overcoming shyness.