Most guys think approaching women is like getting their teeth pulled and as long as you associate negative feelings and emotions with dating women, then you will never get a woman's phone number or get her interested in having sex with you! If you want your approach to be successful you have to change your thinking and learn to associate picking up women with fun and exciting emotions instead.
Think about how you feel when approaching women, there are several reoccurring emotions that most man seem to associate with the experience, including nerves, sweating and inability to think of what to say! If you have no clue how to play a board game you wouldn't jump right in without reading the instruction, so if you want to be taken seriously by women you want to have sex with, take a little time to learn the correct approach.
There are different approaches, and guys who have the experience and confidence can adapt almost any technique and work it to their advantage, but to start with there are five techniques that work in almost any situation and are sure to get you success.
1. Lead with a gift: One of my favorites that has rarely let me down is the "warm up" approach. Women are hit on all the time, so I take a little time to set myself apart. Before approaching, I have a drink sent over to the women and her friends and instruct the waiter to tell her I sent it. Most women will appreciate the gesture, especially if you bought drinks for everyone at the table. When you do approach you already have a conversation starter, just ask her if she enjoyed the drink.
2. Laughter is the best medicine: My best friend is a hilarious guy, and his first and only method of approaching women is the funny pick up line. Pick up lines can be tricky to use and when I use this approach my pickup lines always come across as lame and maybe yours will too. Roll with it! Just laugh it off and ask her to share the worst pick up line she has ever received or throw out a few more to keep her laughing.
3. Be Romantic: One of my closest female friends once told me about the best method a guy ever used to approach her. Their eyes locked from across the room and he didn't hesitate. He walked right over and told her she was the most beautiful women he had ever seen and he would be crushed if he didn't get too spend a few moments basking in her presence. Now to me this sounded a little sappy, but to my friend a huge romantic at heart, this was perfect. So perfect in fact she later married the guy! So be willing to take a risk and make a women feel as if she is the most incredible mouthwatering site in the room.
4. Try Simple and direct: If you take the simple approach, you are the type of guy who does not believe in playing games. Simply make eye contact to show a woman you are interested then walk over to her. Just greet her and introduce yourself, try to draw her out and get her to respond to you. Body language is important in this approach to keep a woman from growing bored, be subtle but let her see your sexual interest.
5. Use the Wild Card: I throw this approach out when I find myself in an unfamiliar situation, or a location where approaching women is not as easy as it would be at a bar, store or other usual hangouts. This approach is about meeting women while hiking, at jury duty on vacation, at church anywhere outside your normal routine. Here just be spontaneous take any minute or possible opportunity you have to speak with a woman and take it! You cannot afford to wait, in this type of atmosphere. For example if you are waiting at jury duty beside a woman you find attractive tell her she smells great or talk about the long court wait.
The most important think to remember when approaching women is that there are no guarantees! As much as these methods will help you there is never going to be a 100% assurance that a women won't tell you no, and this is part of what makes it so wonderful when you walk up to a woman, use one of these simple methods and get a phone number, a date or even sex.