How do you feel when you approach woman? Most guys get nervous walking up to a woman and trying to make contact. Their palms start to sweat, their bodies start to tremble and they can feel the glands in their throat start to swell. Think about how the lady feels though, seeing some guy whose eyes keep darting around, sweating and breathing heavily walking towards her, it is just not comfortable for either of you.
To approach a woman correctly man need to get a grip! A woman saying "no" or rejecting your advances may be a little sad but put it into perspective much worse things can and do happen in the world. Stop thinking about what to do, and what to say, in fact, the best way too approach a woman is to take the simple approach to make it enjoyable.
Dating is a game and if you think of it in those terms you can relax and have fun with your approach. Just like playing a video game, you should take the time to plan a course of action. When you play a video game, you adopt the habits and traits of the main character, and when dating allowing yourself to break outside of your shell and approach woman in a different way can help you end up with less rejections and encourage you to approach woman you normally would be too intimidated by.
No, you don't have to lie or pretend, but using the techniques that work for a more successful friend allow you to adapt to any social environment with women, and feature a different side of your character that women could find more attractive. Another video game technique that works is using the help of your friends. The "buddy approach" works great when dealing with a group of women, and is a great technique when at a bar or club.
For the buddy approach to work you have to have a male friend along. After spotting the woman you have an interest in, you point her out to your friends. Their job is for your friends to target her friends so you can grab the attention of the girl you like and get a little time alone. Because she is being approached in a group setting with her friends around she will likely be more open.
Approach woman you like at the bar with your friends. All of you should take time to introduce yourselves and spend a few minutes talking to all of the girls their so no one feels offended. This also allow the girl you like to see you are capable of getting along with her friends and are not just after sex. Smiling, light flirting and jokes are also sure to get her attention. Then casually ask her to dance or suggest to buy another round of drinks and ask her to walk you too the bar to help carry the drinks back to group.
Once you have the girl away from her friends for a few minutes, do not waste any time. Build a connection by talking about similar interest, ask her to dance and use body language to increase sexual desire. Take advantage of the club atmosphere, while your friends distract her friends; suggest you find a secluded table in the club to talk. As you get closer and she shows she feels the same attraction lean in for a kiss.
The friend approach works great at parties, clubs and another late night type of meetings. Do you know the best way to approach a girl in the daytime though? Parks, libraries, bookstores, coffee shops and even grocery stores are great ways of meeting women during daytime and work best without the interference of your other friends around.
To approach woman at these locations, use the setting to your advantage. At the library act interested in the book she is reading or ask for assistance with locating a particular section. At the grocery store ask for advice on picking out a fruit, or help in finding a particular brand. Whatever the situation there are simple ways to approach a woman that will not make her afraid or cause her to tense up.
Think of the daytime approach as an approach that would work on anyone. When done correctly women will not feel intimidated because you are using the same type of language and body signals that you would use when approaching a male friend, a store employee or a little old lady. Once she answers your questions, you ease into small talk. Add in a little casual flirting to start showing sexual intent.