There are a lot of men out there who are spending way too much time making comparisons between their woman and those who are available. Often times they are using this method to make their woman do that which they want them to do.
Of course, this is wrong, not to mention, childish, and it can make a woman feel as if she is not worthy in most respects. Anyone can understand that men want to see beautiful women, sexy women, and totally confident women, but if you are already married or are in a relationship, then there must have been some thing about the woman you are with, else why are you with her?
If you need to have more pizazz to your relationship, then often times simply talking it over will work wonders. Then you do not need to make someone feel less than desirable or out of place to get what you want. Honesty and sharing go a long, long way. It is true that many women do not care for themselves as much when they are comfortable in a relationship. However, that does not mean that a man has the right to make her feel as if she is unattractive, unexciting, or unlovable.
She might just need to hear what would make you happy such as wearing some sexy lingerie for a change, then perhaps you need to initiate the change by buying her something sexy, which will dress her up, inspire her, or make her understand what it is that you need. Granted, these subjects are often difficult to discuss, but if you care enough for someone, then discussion is the most adult way to handle that which creates wedges in a relationship.
It some times happens that some women are often misinformed about their role as wife, mother, or significant other. Much too often they have been raised that if you are a wife, mother, or whatever; then once you take on this role you no longer have to try to impress your man. This is not their fault. Instead, it is the fault of their social upbringing, and it should be eradicated.
Some women know intrinsically that remaining sexy, hot, and intriguing is the way to keep a man's interest, but most women are raised believing that once you are in a marriage or a relationship, then he should be interested or he would not have committed himself. Instead of men blaming and distributing guilt, ill feelings, hurt, and shame then they need to take time to try to discuss such things.
Instead of withdrawing to a fantasy world, why not try giving her the chance to be your fantasy and help her along without demands or comparison or disregard for her role as your wife, woman, lover, or friend. Women over thirty should not be compared to eighteen year old girls! This is simply cruel, and it is foolish, not to mention it is totally a waste of time.
All women were once that young, cute, and desirable, but as they grow older they do not want to be reminded that those days are gone. Believe me, they already know this. Any man worth his salt should see that aging does not mean that women are less, but in fact, they are more. It is like this, it is easy to be all that when you are young, but if she can still look good beyond thirty and higher, then that is truly, a beautiful woman.
It is all perceptual, there are lots of good looking babes out there, but you must realize that those babes are always what they seem, and they might have nothing else to offer. So, you better take a good long look at what is attractive and realize just how great the wife, woman, lover, or friend you have really is, as the grass on the other side is not always greener, though the manure might be fresher.