They say that stress is the curse our living in modern times. Everyone seems to suffers from stress including our your children. The same goes when you start tearing your hair out with all the frustration,grief, anxiety, and yes, stress. It's a state of mental conditioning that is like taking that bitter pill down your throat, causing you to lose your sense of self, and worse your sanity. Just thinking about it can drive anyone off the edge.They also said that the proactive ones are already living off the edge.
As one stressed-out person to another, I know how it feels, but there are several ways to manage stress, and eventually remove it out of your life one of these days.
1.Acknowledge Stress Is Good - Make stress your friend! Based on the body's natural "fight or flight" response, that burst of energy will enhance your performance at the right moment. I've yet to see a top sportsman totally relaxed before a big competition. Use stress wisely to push yourself that little bit harder when it counts most.
2.Avoid Stress Sneezers - Stressed people sneeze stress germs indiscriminately and before you know it, you are infected too! Protect yourself by recognizing stress in others and limiting your contact with them. Or if you've got the inclination, play stress doctor and teach them how to better manage themselves.
3.Learn From The Best - When people around are losing their head, who keeps calm? What are they doing differently? What is their attitude? What language do they use? Are they trained and experienced? Figure it out from afar or sit them down for a chat. Learn from the best stress managers and copy what they do.
4.Practice Socially Acceptable Heavy Breathing - This is something I've learned from a gym instructor: You can trick your body into relaxing by using heavy breathing. Breathe in slowly for a count of 7 then breathe out for a count of 11. Repeat the 7-11 breathing until your heart rate slows down, your sweaty palms dry off and things start to feel more normal.
5.Give Stressy Thoughts The Red Light - It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. "If this happens, then that might happen and then we're all up the creek!" Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly? Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong - how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?
6.Know Your Trigger Points And Hot Spots - Presentations, interviews, meetings, giving difficult feedback, tight deadlines. My heart rate is cranking up just writing these down!Make your own list of stress trigger points or hot spots. Be specific. Is it only presentations to a certain audience that get you worked up? Does one project cause more stress than another? Did you drink too much coffee? Knowing what causes you stress is powerful information, as you can take action to make it less stressful. Do you need to learn some new skills? Do you need extra resources? Do you need to switch to decaf?
7.Burn The Candle At One End - Lack of sleep, poor diet and no exercise wreaks havoc on our body and mind. Kind of obvious, but worth mentioning as it's often ignored as a stress management technique. Listen to your mother and don't burn the candle at both ends!So having stress can be a total drag, but that should not hinder us to find the inner peace of mind that we have wanted for a long time. In any case, one could always go to the Bahamas and bask under the summer sun.
8.Express Your Love To Your Loved Ones - Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people whom you love. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
9.Exercise - Physical exercise develops and maintains physical fitness and overall health.Exercise helps to strengthen muscles and the cardiovascular system.Frequent and regular physical exercise boosts the immune system, and helps prevent diseases of affluence such as heart disease, cardiovascular disease, diabetes and obesity.Exercise also improves mental health and helps prevent depression.
10.Do Random Acts of Kindness - You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most.Giving to the less fortunate will enable you to be aware of your strength and ability to improve the life of others. Many stressed our professionals spend months and even years away from their work to do volunteer works and found great satisfaction and meaning to their lives.They came back fully refreshed and energise for the next phase of their lives.
These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy. And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Paul Hata is active in various social and community programs aimed at providing equal access to education,health and jobs to all.Paul has over 10 years experience in managing a multi-million dollar advertising company.Paul can be reached at TradePlanets.com