As a parent, we want to protect our child from pain and trauma, whether it is physical or emotional pain. Sadly, no matter how hard we try to create a happy and joyful childhood there are realities that every child will face that we cannot censor. Take for example the passing of a close relative, whether it is the death of a grandparent, or any family for that matter, it can have a huge impact on a child’s emotional well-being.
Grief is a hard and complicated subject to talk about a child, but as a loving and caring parent, you need to address the reality of life and death so that your children grow up to become well-adjusted adults. Here are some tips to help you and your child cope with the loss of a loved one:
Tip 1: Be Honest
Many parents think that their children are too young to process the passing of a family member and they choose to tell a fib. The classic "they are asleep" is always the go-to for an adult, but telling this lie can seriously confuse a young child. Instead of telling your children that grandpa is "just sleeping" let them know the truth. Children are far smarter than they are given credit for, and by being honest you are opening the room for growth and learning from a young age.
Tip 2: Do Not Shut Them Away
Another common mistake of many parents is trying to censor the death by keeping them away from the funeral and the burial. This can leave a child feeling confused and unsure about how they are feeling about the loss. Instead, bring them to the funeral so they can say their goodbyes to the loved one they have lost.
Keep note that your child has also lost an important figure in their life and they are very vulnerable during this time. A personalized sympathy gift as a remembrance will offer some form of comfort, but as a parent, you need to be their guide through this emotional journey.
Tip 3: Answer Their Questions
Children are naturally curious and will ask a lot of questions, the same will be experienced when a family member has passed away. Do not silence them and their questions as this can be a way for them to cope with the loss. Calmly answer all of their questions to ensure they understand what has happened and won’t be traumatized by the loss.
Tip 4: Don’t Be Afraid To Cry
Parents think that they have to be strong for their children during the passing of a loved one. Strength is often displayed as showing no emotions, which is very wrong. Crying and showing pain will help your children understand their emotions better and help them process their grief. If you choose to hide your pain from them, they will feel confused and find themselves at a loss and potentially stunt their emotional growth in the process.
Love And Care
Sympathy Gifts, honesty, and showing emotions will help your child process their grief better. However, make sure that through this emotional and confusing time in their lives you are always there to provide them with love and care. It will be hard, but together you can recover from the loss and become closer as a family.
Sympathy Gifts provide something much more tangible as a way to remember the ones we've loved and lost. Visit Remember Me Gifts today to find the right one for your needs.